The real reason you don’t follow through (and can’t pass the FE Exam)
With a new year comes new aspirations reinforced by a reinvigorated spirit to get after an opportunity that comes from the chaos of a years past.
But, last year, it all started the same way – what happened?
Why are we still in the same position, with “taking the FE Exam.” still at the top of the list of things we need to get done?
I will suggest there a number of issues here –
Let’s get in to it.
Right now, we are on fire – inspired by each waking day, propelled by a vigor we likely haven’t felt in a while.
We are clear in what we want to do.
We are confident in the steps we need to take, but…
As it is with most new years resolutions, the action will either never happen or quickly fade.
Why is this?
It’s no doubt that we want to make progress in our careers and in our lives.
But we find ourselves stuck in a perpetual state of doing absolutely nothing about it.
Listen, I am preaching to myself as much as I am anyone else.
I think it’s important to slow down and analyze why it is we are constantly looking for progress that seems to be ever-fleeting.
When I reflect on my own experiences with this, I see many issues that have led to me being in the same exact position 365 days later.
These past two years, Covid hit us all straight in the face –
So we can chalk that one up in the “didn’t see that coming” category.
But what about all the other years.
Work responsibilities, starting a family, socializing, amongst other things I prioritized for whatever reason above the one thing I wanted to do.
There are many reasons for this inaction, but let’s hit on one that seems to be the primary instigator for them all.
We are horrible at managing our own energy.
That’s just real talk.
When I am talking with new students coming in to Prepineer, we dive deep in to their past experiences with the FE Exam.
Most all are quick to call out their inability to properly prepare, but they aren’t so much inclined to being able to pinpoint the underlying “why” of those unproductive efforts.
People love to fluff Will Power as if it in itself is the reason for not seeing through their deepest aspirations – but it’s not.
Yes, Will Power is a thing, in the free-will sense, but it’s really the level of energy we have to go to battle when we are pushing up against that threshold of “go or no go”.
Let’s look at it this way, we are limited in the amount of energy we can output each and every day.
Every waking second there are things we can say yes to and things we can say no to.
Just as it is with the gas in the tank of our car, every mile we go, every decision we make, we etch away at the reserves we have.
This is the concept of decision fatigue.
As an individual studying for the FE Exam, or pursuing goals in any area of life, we must be proactive in the way we are living each day.
We’ve got to recognize and turn away from the more obvious gas-consuming activities while making intentional efforts in replenishing our energy tank with net positive recovery including how we are taking care of ourselves both physically (including nutrition) and mentally (including sleep).
For most, considerations of why they are struggling to make progress in life fail to extend outside the basic stance of Will Power.
In doing so, they are just led down the road of self-doubt and a distorted picture of what they are actually capable of achieving.
This is where the cycle of letting go of your dreams and aspirations begins.
Rarely does society talk openly about the importance of mental health when it comes to achieving your goals
Because of this, we fail to recognize the patterns of daily life that are leading to us slowly letting go.
We enter a world of conflicting ideas where we are passionate in one sense while questioning our ability to stay enthusiastic in the midst of the pursuit.
Your headspace and why its making you feel like you can’t pass the FE Exam
Let’s get meta and call out headspaces and how they effect our overall progress towards our life goals.
Biologically, your thoughts, moods, daily interactions and stress responses are the primary consumers of your tank.
You are the vehicle in your own life and having a blind spot as to what is consuming your level of reserves to low before you even make a move in attempting the FE Exam or getting out for workout, or whatever, is the real problem.
Oscar Wilde put it like this:
Most just let life cruise by without a thought of why they are doing this or doing that.
There is often no accountability to ourselves in the decisions we are making and we let others drive our agenda.
And this, my friends, is what needs to change – today.
Uncovering and accepting the parallels between the effects of physical and mental stressors on your ability to execute can provide a new, yet familiar lens to begin exploring your overall progress in life.
Realizing how adept you are at monitoring where you are spending your energy reserves, on what decisions, can give you the confidence needed to redirect your efforts to uncover the impact that a lack of energy has had on you achieving your goals in the past.
So today we take our first step.
Our first step to achieving more of what is important to us and to stop telling ourselves that we can’t pass the FE Exam
For the next seven days, be intentional in auditing what decisions you are making.
Identify where you are hitting the threshold of “go or no go”, the decision points, and where you are compromising your own desires in lieu at another persons request, agenda.
These decision points are subtle, but cumulative in nature, and if we are able to get to a point where we start limiting how many inconsequential decisions we make, we can then begin pivoting our decision-making for times when we feel most alert.
And that is where real progress is made.
Is this the year you pass the FE Exam?
It can be, but the action lies with you.
If I offered to personally walk you through a program we developed that has helped even those with the deepest of doubts prepare for and pass the FE Exam, would you take it?
If so, click here to start your 7 day trial and see just how possible passing can be for you too.